There is a big difference between “making money” and “receiving money”. They come from two very different places inside the body, totally different energetics and different relationship with money paradigms.
Controlling paradigm
MAKING MONEY comes from the old business and sales paradigm concept. Energetically, it’s what I call “Controlling Business Paradigm”. It carries the tone of fear, lack and unsafety. Making money is rooted in the old paradigm. It carries the tone of survival. Underlying feeling of needing to prove something or control all the situation. Sometimes we try to micro-manage the universe this way and the pathways it wants to support us.
There is more masculine energy: the push, the effort, the pressure, going towards. It also comes with inner monologue including phrases such as “I should, I have to…”
When we try to “make” money this way, we often tighten in our body, we try to overcontrol all the possibilities, the answers and we work harder. We push past our own limits. We separate from ourselves. We sell from fear or urgency, even when we don’t mean to and we are not relaxed and open hearted when we receive money because it doesn’t feel safe either. We loose the magnetism. And in the worst expressions of this, it becomes about convincing or manipulating or chasing breadcrumbs. Not because we are bad, but because we are scared and we don’t trust that we can be provided, that universe has our back.
It’s exhausting because it goes against the natural flow of life. Against the truth of our capacity, our nervous system and ways of abundant nature that wants to nurture us.
Receiving paradigm
Receiving money feels very different. It is softer in the body and it is rooted in trust. Trust in ourselves. Trust in the timing and natural flow. Trust in being held by something larger. Trust that nature provides.
There is a sense of “I can let this in” without controlling or overprotecting yourself. There is allowance for things to flow as it wants to flow. It’s an open state. The body expands and relaxes. The breath slows and there is space to feel joy and detachment.
It is also not only about how much money comes in, but the way it arrives.
And the way we allow it to land in the body.
Some people can earn large amounts and still feel empty or numb. The money is there, but they can’t feel it. So they chase more. Not because they need more, but because they are looking for a sense of fullness they can’t yet receive. But it can also go other way around – we feel numb to receive, so we block it in all kind of subconscious ways to reach us. Sometimes the package arrives for us at our door, with our name on it and we are like: “No, it’s not for me”. This is a receiving wound and many of us carry it.
And women especially, because we learned early that opening to receive is unsafe. We learned to be the giver till complete depletion. The one who holds. The one who manages. The one who stays strong. The one who holds all 5 corners of the house. The one who over gives but not receives.
And to receive means softening… And softness has not been safe for many of us. It’s more feminine energetics. It’s leaning back and allowing things to come to you… It’s magnetic.
And it’s not only about money. It’s the energy of abundance in general. It’s way broader. It’s about allowing yourself to be showered and nurtured with all kinds of goodness! Like receiving a hug, enjoying eating chocolate (rather than feeling guilty as you eat it), really taking a compliment, or just simply resting or even collapsing when you need it. Money has a lot of charge when it comes to our receiving capacity and triggers our deep wounding because it is very strongly related to the feeling of perceived safety in history.
Have you ever experienced something similar in your intimate relationships? That is doesn’t feel safe to receive the love from another or that you hold them at arms length and only let them in sometimes? Or perhaps the intimacy scares you?
Ad also other way around, do you recall a situation when you were so excited to give a gift to someone, to help someone, to nourish someone and they said NO? Roles reversed – that’s how universe feels with you when you do that. It’s all receiving capacity block.
Love and money are so very related. As Richard Rudd said: “Prosperity goes through the heart”
This is the energy of abundance. The nourishment of life itself. Money simply awakens the wound more clearly because it is tied to safety and survival in our history. Money is amplifier of what already is. And what is now – the unsafety to let the guards down, surrender and receive love in form it wants to come.
The real work is not about earning more but increasing the capacity to receiving more because that’s how THE MORE arrives.
The work is learning how to let what is meant for you actually reach you. To open. To soften. To feel safe enough to receive.
That is where abundance begins. Not in striving but in opening your heart… Receiving is not something you perform. It is something you allow.
Life is always trying to come toward you. Nature already knows how to nourish you and it really wants to do it. Sometimes in ways your controlling mind can’t even grasp. But you have to let it in. You have to trust its timing and forms. You have to trust yourself to be held. And when the package shows up at your door, you have to sign up to receive it even if you feel not ready or surprised.
Nature will never support what harms you. Even when the harm is the way you hold yourself back. When you tighten, restrict, and stop the flow where life wants to move. Receiving is knowing that you are already worthy of the good that wants to come. Worthy of support. Worthy of nourishment. Worthy of being met with overflow, with ease…
P.S. And my neighbor just brought me home made cookies while I was writing this… The most delicious cookies ever. He was so worried that they are not vegan. I welcomed it with zero guilt and ate it with so much enjoyment. Such a delight because I felt how it comes with most nourishing and caring energy. It’s probably the most movie like story I had with neighbors. And life suddenly feels way more delicious…
